What's the biggest problem people have with romance and relationships

Thanks for getting back to me. I appreciate your input. You are now in the draw to win the course materials. Feel free to forward details of the contest to your friends and lovers.
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Yes Michael, agree with what you said...however for any relationship to work, one needs to put in effort...just like to maintain the smooth running of a car, have to send for service, find out where the problems are and nip it in the bud...The initial spark would have fizzled out with time...Falling in love...being in love...may lead to falling out of love ...if one has the perception of 'perfect love'...

Hi Serena, You are right. Any relationship, whether it is in business or family or any other situation requires maintenance. Psychologist John Gottman found that he could predict with 95% accuracy whether a couple would be together at the end of ten years just by watching five minutes of video. Gottman would get couples to stay in apartments where they would be videoed 24 hours a day. Not only could he predict whether they would still be together he could also predict with 85 % accuracy which year they would break up. He determined that the difference that allowed couples to stay together was as simple as asking things like "How was your day today?"
There are other things as well which I won't go into here. But maintenance is definitely a big part of it. And yes falling out of love is almost certain. The knack is in still loving the person behind the projections

Thanks for introducing Prof Gottman...:) How true when he stated that contempt for one's partner is the most destructive emotional reaction. His seven principles to reinforce the positive aspects of a relationship are excellent...and should be incorporated into anyone who wants to enhance their relationships...Simple Q asked by a partner shows the concern, care and love that he/she has for the other....

Are you a therapist of some type Serena ?

Emm.. I am a modern healer...:) but now going into the holistic way...

GeesguysIreallyneedtoreadthatbook.Youarebothmakingsense,thepointIamrightnowisdestructiveemotionalreactionIvebeenlikethatforthelast3yearsforreasonsIcannotgointohere.ButIagreewithyouboth,Michaelsometimeswhenyoudokeepupthemaintenanceandgooutofyourwaytodothebestyoucanyougetburntoutwaitingforresponseback,notphysicalbutemotionalresponse,anacceptance,avoice,anemotionanacknowledgementthatIexist.Ibelievealsothatwithoutpropercommunicationbetweenthetwothatitsnotfair,butwecantmakeourpartnerslistentheyhavetowanttolistentohowwefeel.Sometimesasinmysituationcultureplaysabigpartofitaspeoplehavebeenboughtuptothinkintheoppositeway.AlsoIagreethatweshouldonlyseeourpartnersastheyareandlovethemforthatbecausenoneofusareperfect.SerenaImgoingtolookintoyourresponsesothatImaylearnfromit,thankyou.

HiShereen...yes..Ithinkyoushouldgoogle'JohnGottman'...Youareexperiencingdestructiveemotionalreactiontowardsyourpartnerashedoesnotlistentoyouorevenaknowledgeyourexistence.Theremustbeacommunicationbreakdownandthisispartlyduetoculturalreasonsespeciallyinthewayofupbringing...PerhapsyoucangetoneofProfGottman'sbooksonline..'Sevenprinciplesofmakingmarriagework'.Readuponthe5thprinciple,solveyoursolvableproblemsiecompromiseonsuchissues...giveandtake...AsProfsaid,softenyourstartup..yourapproachtoaproblem,donotuseantagonisingwords,doitasgentlyasyoucan...thenlearntomakeandreceiverepairattempts...beopenminded...sootheyourselfandeachother...compromiseandbetolerantofeachother'sfaults...nooneisperfect...:)

Hi Shereen, There is a lot in your response. I will endeavour to answer all of your points as usefully as I can. ( If you want to communicate privately and out of this very public forum you can PM me at addingvaluenow@gmail.com) (or PM me your email from inside of WAYN) you say you are at a point of destructive emotional reaction. I am not at all surprised if your existence is not being acknowledged emotionally or physically. When people have no acceptance of the fact that they have views they wish to express and their partner does not listen to them then it does make life exceedingly difficult. And no life is not always fair. Culturally there are some aspects of your situation that will not change soon. From what I understand, you want to feel acknowledged and validated. to be listened to and heard. From what I understand of your culture t

ThanksSerenaIwilldojustthat.IjusthopethatIcandoitonmyown.

Shereen, How do you think that you are on your own ?

I will email you Michael

I look forward to hearing from you Shereen. Stay happy !!

I have replied to you Shereen...